how to ask someone if we’re exclusive or not

Okay so i have hooked up with this guy twice and both times we’ve hooked up he’s been really sweet to me, we always have good conversations before and after, he gives after care and i can tell he’s just a really sweet guy ( like you know how you can tell when a guy is a dick and doesn’t care about you at all) and he’ll ask me if i made it home safely the next morning and he even texted me the other day and said he misses me so my dilemma is many things the first is that i can tell he’s a sweet guy and he has a really clear direction for where he wants his life to go and he has his own place and he just has himself lined up for the future and that’s really attractive to me so i see him as more than just a hookup i honestly see him as boyfriend material, however, he just moved into my state for his internship about a month ago so i genuinely don’t want him to feel like we have to be exclusive or that he has to settle but i don’t want to continue to have sex with him if he’s having sex or seeing other women because i can see myself catching feelings for him soon if we continue to sleep with each other and if i find out he’s seeing other girls that will hurt me so id rather us stop now before i do catch feelings. The only problem is how do I talk to him about this without coming off as obsessive or without seeming like i just fell in love with him within a month. Basically i just want him to know that i respect him enough to not just want to hookup with him but i also understand if he’s talking to other girls i just can’t be one of the girls that he’s casually hooking up with however i would still like to be friends. Another thing is that we don’t use condoms (please don’t bash me for this i know the consequences) so i have to pop a plan b everytime and i don’t want to make that a habit so i’m willing to get on birth control for him but not if we’re just casually hooking up and especially not if he’s sleeping with other girls because if me and him ever stopped having sex i don’t plan on taking birth control because i don’t plan on sleeping with anyone else after him. So i need advice on how to talk to him about this without seeming like i’m asking the “what are we” question or seeming like i’m expecting him to be exclusive with me