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I don’t know if I have much advice but the God I serve is the same one who blessed Sarah with Isaac at age 90 after all her years of longing. The same God who crafted us all individually, specifically counted the number of hairs on our heads and knows each and every one of us by name … He is able to do absolutely ANYTHING. Childbirth past a certain age is rare, but not impossible - hold onto even a mustard seed of faith & if it’s in God’s plan for you life, it will happen. Sending prayers 🩵
I’m just sad
I’m 43 today, 44 in December. Never been pregnant. Been married to my man of God for seven and half years. He had a vasectomy during his first marriage. He has an 18 year-old daughter from first marriage. We adopted our son. I have been prophesied over that we would have biological children. Hasn’t happened. Have not had a reversal. We both agreed that God would have to make a way - basically restore his vas deferens and heal the vasectomy. I’m about 150 pounds overweight, now. I wasn’t that much when I got married. Probably 100 pounds overweight.
We moved from our hometown where we met and married, and both of our families still live there. We both felt God calling us to move to Washington state. I had asked God to have a specific person tell me, we would have a bio baby, if we were to move to Washington. That person did indeed tell me we would have a bio baby and we have moved to Washington. That was a year and a half ago. Still no baby.
Now, my flow is starting to change. When I ovulate on my right side, it’s significantly lighter than on my left side, which leads me to believe that I no longer have any eggs in my right ovary.
I am freaking out. Now, I have so many regrets. The biggest one, I should have just gotten pregnant before I got married. Had a baby in my 20s like everyone else. Maybe I would have still met my husband. I don’t know. I regret that I didn’t go to the college I really wanted to, that’s where my husband went as well. We may have, probably met sooner. It was a smaller school.
I regret not taking charge of my life and learning to love myself before now.
I know I have to forgive myself, but HOW do I do that when all I have ever wanted is to have a biological baby, since I was a little girl. I come from a good southern family. I was virgin when I got married. I was raised that you don’t have kids until you get married. But I also saw that children who didn’t come from a loving two parent home, were really not set up for success as those children who did come from a loving two parent home. That’s just how I was raised and how I desired to raise my children.
Truly no judgement to the single moms. I know that sounds judgmental, but it’s not. Nothing but MAD RESPECT to single moms. Y’all are the real heroes!!!
But now, man, I’m just so sad. How do I forgive myself, move on, and allow God to be God.
Truly, in the natural it’s too late for me. But God is my only hope now.
Thank you for letting me ramble, rant, and share regret.
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I’m a firm believer in God and Jesus Christ but when we change our anatomy then we’ll have issues. Your husband has a vasectomy. Highly highly unlikely you will conceive. ANYTHING is possible but if you have barriers blocking you (vasectomy) then HE really can’t help you. Have you gone to the dr to have a fertility test done? We can’t just sit back doing nothing and expect God to provide for us. We need to do the footwork as well and not be lazy. With all that said be kind to yourself. There is a purpose and a reason you are where you are. He has a big plan for you and all of us. Just hold onto your faith and trust. We can’t live with regret as hard as it is not to. Just don’t wallow in it. Pick yourself up and do the footwork! 💞💞
If you’re waiting for God to reverse the vasectomy naturally then you’re gonna be waiting forever 😂 that man needs to go and get the procedure done. I can guarantee he only told you that bc he doesn’t want to have anymore children, y’all should really sit down and talk about this
Ju
Thought the same thing.
Hey. I got married in April 2023. I was 44, turned 45 the next month. I hadn’t been with anyone, but always wanted kids. So we are trying, but I found out after some testing that I do not have good eggs. So the chances of my getting pregnant are super slim. I did it right. I waited, and felt like I was being punished for something. But I’m not. God has a plan. It could be that getting pregnant could be hard on my body and I may have complications. Maybe God is protecting me from that. Or maybe there are children out there that we need to adopt. Or maybe God will still let me have a child; it would be a miracle for His glory. God has plans for you. He has good plans for all of his children. Talk to Jesus about your situation. You and your husband need to pray together and separately on it. And then see your ON-GYN and get some testing done. Fertility treatments are available. But remember, God has His reasons. We may not understand them, but you are NOT being punished for waiting. You will be rewarded. I’m His time.
I am going to be 40 this year with no children as well. We’ve been trying for 7/8yrs as well and it’s been a rough journey. I’ve had all sorts of fights with the Lord. I started out with a lot of faith, to wondering if he truly listened to me, to being angry at him for allowing others conceive who don’t serve him, to giving him the silent treatment, to giving up. Finally to taking hold of his love over me again. One day in my sleep I woke up in the middle of the night to a voice that said many have idles and idles aren’t just statues. My heart felt so small before him cause I realized that for 7.5yrs having a baby is all that I could think about and all I worried about, thiswant had become my first priority. I understood then that I don’t follow my Lord and savior for what wishes he grants me, I serve him and follow him because he has saved me and one day he will return for his people and at the end HE is my objective.Ive been pregnant 2 times last yr after not being able to for yrs and both ended in miscarriage.I am currently expecting again and im so nervous about it cause of my past losses but I decided to trust in the one who breathed life in to my lungs.Please don’t lose hope or focus, and never ever regret what you have done for the Lord in the past. Don’t let the enemy fog the reason why you said I do when our Lord and savior called you by your name to serve him.May God give you the peace and deliverance you need in this season my friend. God Bless you and your beautiful family 🙏🏻 .
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🙏🏻 🥰 🤗 God bless you.
Ro
Amen 🙏🏽 thank you for this even though it was meant for another
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