Is my husband cheating?

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Soo….
Yesterday I borrowed my husband’s phone to use his google map. I accidentally found out that he went in to a hotel 4 times last year. It was after office hour, with 3-4 hours duration each time. He went there from his office, before he’s came home.￼
Edit: fyi, no, I didn’t went through his whole history. I wanted to search a location of my friend’s wedding (a hotel), and gmap apparently has a record on similar places and can tell you exactly the frequency of your visit, time, and date. *sigh*
I was a bit surprised, but I tried to calm down before I make any conclusion. I checked the date, and tried to check our message history on that day, and he said that he’s working late or hang out with his friends.
I am really confused on what should I do. He’s a responsible husband and a great father, and I want to believe him. However, I can’t help but getting suspicious.
Am I paranoid? 
How should I talk to him about this?

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You’re not paranoid when there’s proof of him lieing to you directly, multiple times. What does a married man with children have a need to go to a hotel after work and lie to you about it??

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He is your husband talk to him. I don't know why people like to jump to cheating anyhow. Being at a hotel doesn't necessarily mean he has booked a room. SMH I don't get why people assume the worst first. There are plenty of people that use hotel restaurants and bars without having a room. You even said you checked the messages and he told you he will met people after work. And I know for a fact that people meet up at hotel restaurants and bars, because I done so plenty of times and it is a common thing people do. Privat meetings and business meetings a like.

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Not sure if you both are quite open when it comes to talking but I think you should be honest and tell him what you came across when you used his phone, but please be mindful of where this conversation can lead. I mean you need to prepare yourself what to do if he ever admits or will lie. I caught my ex cheating and I knew it was over. I probably would’ve forgiven him but I would always be suspicious towards him. But the good thing is I found someone who cares about me. Good luck

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Yikes, this situation sucks. You know what you know and you can't go back and unknown this. All there is to do is sort your thoughts and figure out how you want to handle this. 99 % sure was doing something he wasn't supposed to. Regardless of how you found out you did because the truth always does. Are you going to stay? If so get into marriage counseling because this can cause you mental, physically, and emotionally. This is a him issueand has nothing to do with you no matter what he says.  He made a choice nobody put a gun to his head and told him to do it. He took your trust and abused it. Thought he wouldn't caught what you don't know won't hurt you right wink wink. Men a stupid in this sense. You can leave and that is another ball game. If you choose to do so get all your ducks in a row. Where your going custody/divorce. All your evidence ect. Pack your things while he is at work and go. Do whats right for you and your kids but don't stay if your going to be miserable. Also it's okay if you choose to stay but end up leaving or vice versa. Be confident in your intuition and listen to you. Your not selfish or greedy if you leave or weak and broken if you stay. Wish you all the best.

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Maps is not always accurate it could be somewhere near the hotel and not actually the hotel itself maybe look through the rest of the phone and look through browser histoty etc to see if anything adds up and if not confront him in a calm environment and if in fact he did cheat then make your decision but i wouldnt just build yourself up when maybe it may not be the case

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You need to confront him. I can't think of any other explanation than cheating. I'm really sorry, this is horrible!!

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Call him on it. “Hey you know how I used your phone for Google maps? Well x hotel showed up. Have you been there?” See his facial expression and what he says next.

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You didn’t accidentally find anything out lol but he is definitely lying & up to no good. Just confront him about it.

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Your not being paranoid he is clearly hiding something if he was at a hotel telling you he was working late  🚩

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How do you “Accidentally”, look at map history over the course of a year? 
Anyway, talk to your husband about it. He said he was hanging out with friends, could he have been there with his friends? If not, or if you don’t trust him (which it already sounds like), then consider divorce.

Is my husband cheating?

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