Irritated Rant

My husband and I both work and we have two kids under 2. He thinks he’s supposed to come home and not spend much time with the kids or help much with them because he has a harder job than I do. We argue EVERYDAY because of this because he says he goes out to “kill himself” everyday by working in this weather and I still expect him to do stuff when he gets home. Literally just expect him to still be a dad that’s it, I don’t ask him to cook or clean just be a dad. Then he says “how is this 50/50 parenting?” like we both work and we are both still parents what do you mean? I’m so beyond irritated. Also, to mention he had a choice in jobs and could’ve picked an easier job and we discussed the jobs prior to him choosing the one he currently works at. He chose the job he’s at now because he wanted to work with an old friend (who was never a good influence on him) and because “i don’t like being told what to do” because I told him that if he’s looking for easier work, then he shouldn’t get this job , BUT he did it anyways. Now we are not speaking because of this and I am so over this. I get we are partners first but I am not a single mother and being a father takes more than just money, our children need consistency and time and stability and we make good money, it’s just the time and consistency part that needs a lot of work.