Should we get a divorce to keep our family together?

You'll probably find this post confusing because it just dosnt make sense but i need help ladies

So I have 2 kids, my husband is working full time call center job and barely makes a proper income, we cannot cope with rent and our apartment lacks everything but its cheap so we cope we cannot afford a nanny either, Iv been retrenched for about 6 months now before i got retrenched my husband would watch our kids but he got super angry and frustrated all the time his mom would help around the house and with the kids because she was available at the time...it got so bad that my husband cried tears that he needs to work and provide so, since being retrenched id like to study full time or go back to work but I cant and its leaving me feeling depressed and resentful, My son is 5 and attends daycare he needs to be picked up everyday at 3.30 we dont own a vehicle, we have a stairs leading to outside our apartment so I have to carry the pram and her so when I walk everyday with my daughter in her pram I dont have a choice sunshine or rain, its disturbing her naptime schedule so she goes to sleep at 1am-2am in the mornings, my daughter is 2 and she is autistic so i cannot send her to a daycare because she does not cope well on her own whislt we on the waiting list for her to be diagnosed, my day to day is the same routine and i love my kids to death i chose to have them but damn i didnt except this😞 whislt i cry to my husband that i am 26 years old I also have goals and dreams, both my parents passed on and I have no family however my husband has family and my kids are close to their grandma and his family however my husbands 40 year old sister is studying full time (she had to raise my husband and sacrifice half her life when mom used to work fulltime thats why shes studying now)so grandma is required to watch her 2 kids and bonus she is living with her daughter for the time being, when asking my husband if its possible that she watch our kids aswell he says that his sister is busy and she dosnt need the noise its her house and his mom needs a place to stay so her rules she is living on grace and his mom cannot look after so much kids anyway shes almost 70, it causes arguments between his mom and his sister...Iv tried writing a book it failed, iv tried starting a youtube channel but my husband mocks me and says it will take years to accumulate any income and besides the kids need their phone for entertainment so i need to schedule my "youtube channel" around the kids(we only have my phone and his phone) because they come first and when they asleep i can start which is between 12-1am, im not dumb and started to realise help and support was always around for my husband because he is a man and a man is not supposed to be at home according to his mom so she'd help him all the time, roles reversed im left to fend for myself, hell i cant even go for interviews, my husband says im being unreasonable because i should plan my interviews around the times his mom and his sister is available...Ladies I feel so trapped and defeated everytime i think of solutions it gets shut down my husband says im acting immature and reminds me how i used to cry to spend time with my kids now that im unemployed i want to work again,he says i dont know what i want, he says im always angry and his sick of it...my husband and I are together for 11 years now we basically grew up together, we have always been taking turns to watch our kids together since they were born and we barely have intimate moments because his always tired and so am I, i dont know what to do 😭