When I first started going to this practice, I loved the doctor that I was seeing. She was kind, relatable and listened to anything I had to ask. When I got pregnant I didn't find out until 6 months in that she was not the delivery doctor and at one of my appointments I randomly got to meet the guy who was.

First of all, I didn't want a guy doctor at all! There was no communication at all that he is the only one who does deliveries for this practice until this point.

Frustrated. I tried to see if I could switch to another practice but no one would take me since I was so far along. Definitely felt trapped. I accepted it for what it was and just decided to make a good birth plan and all that mattered was having a safe delivery and a healthy daughter.

While looking for a pediatrician, I found this amazing group that I will 100% be switching to after the delivery, but at this point since I am 39 weeks and I don't think it's wise to switch. But I kinda still want to reach out...

Today I went in for my 39 week appointment and this male doctor was so aggressive with his exam. After the exam he told me that I had bled which to be expected but he told me after it had gotten all over my dress. The only reason I bled was probably due to how aggressive he was. I had places to go after this appointment so that really sucks.

I'm 0% dilated at 39 weeks 😭

I wanted to ask them about my birth plan at this appointment but that got skipped over completely and I was barely able to ask about natural ways of inducing.

He asked me four times if I wanted to schedule to be induced (which I've said no from the beginning!) but reminded me of the low success rates with not being dilated at all so why would I want that?

I feel violated and unheard and I'm so uncomfortable at this point.

I don't know what to do...