Vaginismus Is Annoying 😒😞

Is Dilators the only option for curing? I don’t want to waste my money and idk about therapy are there other alternatives. Someone recommended practing with a sex toy could that be an option?I love my partner I’m grateful for him understanding I am just ready to have sex and get rid off my virginity officially and I don’t want to have any pain I want to finally get further than what I’ve been able to please help. 🙏🏾