Great sex with the hottie upstairs, now what?!

Okay y’all! Ready for this?

So I met this hot and successful neighbor who lives in my large high rise building about two years ago. We casually met in the elevator while my girlfriends and I were all dressed up. He was enamored and ended up having drinks with us at my place with his friends. We ended up drunk naked in a shower together that night laughing and being silly but not kissing or hooking up. Sounds weird but I was minding my own business showering and he begged to come in lol. Drunk me said okay but no touching. I’m usually prude so I was nervous af.

Fast forward two years and we’ve had an odd friendship running into each other downstairs at restaurants, our elevator and a few times hanging in groups with his friends. I started to develop more of an interest for him as I got to know him but he never asked me out on any real dates :(. He did ask me to come out with him on nye and some work hh but I turned them down. We’ve had drunk sex 2-3 times over the past 2 years but never any mention of seriously dating, no dinner invites, no birthday celebrations, etc. We both dated other people this year and didn’t speak for about 8 months.

Two days ago, I messaged him telling him I wanted to see him and that I missed him. He agreed to come hang out at our jacuzzi with my puppy and I. We had wine and laughed. I updated him on my life; he updated me on his. It was a great time and we reminisced on all our fun late nights together over the past 2 years. We had a silly fun casual sexual relationship with zero strings attached. I never felt he wanted something serious with me or else I would’ve pursued it. He said I was out too nuch and wild. Meanwhile I’m a prude and he’s the only guy I ever gave my attention to so no clue what he’s talking about. The night I met him was a once in ever situation. I had just moved to the building and I thought he was so hot, intelligent and successful.

While we were in the jacuzzi that night, he asked me why we never dated seriously and that I’m the type of girl he would love to date. I was caught off guard bc that’s not the vibe I’ve ever gotten from him. I didn’t know what to say and I kept telling him I thought he was joking. He kept saying he wasn’t but I couldn’t take him seriously bc he’s always been so fleeting with me. I would LOVE to date him but I was shy and shocked in the moment. Lost my words and just kept saying he’s full of crap to protect my feelings I guess. He told me I was beautiful. He was all over me and turned on.

After the pool, He helped me with my dog giving him a bath after he jumped in the pool. Fed him and played with him. We showered together as it’s our silly thing we always do and he lathered my puppy with shampoo and conditioner since he was a hot mess from jumping into the pool after us. I kept telling him how he would make such a good dad. We had wine and watched a funny movie. We had amazing sex and everything was so sweet and perfect to me. We were both kinda shy and nervous, kinda felt like kids. But once it got going, it was hot af. I’m not used to having sex unless I’m really in love with the person. He would stare into my eyes and I’d panic getting nervous 😂. Idk what’s wrong with me. After, He asked me if I was sleeping over or not. I told him whatever you want me to do. So we slept together with my pup. It was so sweet. I had a meeting in the morning with my work so I left abruptly and didn’t wake him.

He woke up anyways and walked me to the door. He texted me yesterday around noon saying he was so sleepy at work. He didn’t really say much else. He went out with his friends that night and told me I would hate the place he went to. I told him I wouldn’t and had friends that used to like going there when I was younger. He never texted back after that and nothing yet today. He knows I’m going away for 3 weeks today. I can’t stop thinking about it.

If he really liked me, I would think he would want to see me before I leave or at least talk. I can’t tell if he was bullshitting me or if he actually likes me. I’ve had pretty intense feelings for him for a long time and I’m worried. Idk if I should just stop all contact. I really like him but I feel like he may have been lying telling me he wants to date me to sleep with me. I don’t get why he’s not texting me back or curious about my day. Of note, he’s said things like this before but never set up anything datewise and kept it very casual.

What do I do y’all? I like him and the sex is soooo good even tho I’m shy around him bc I like him so much and not confident since he’s not fully mine. I want him :( I can’t tell if he’s playing me.

UPDATE

Okay UPDATE! I’m back home but he’s out of town with his family so STILL haven’t seen each other in person since that night UGH. Talk about torture. The buildup to our next meetup is getting intense😂. Sooo since messaging him asking him if he wanted to go on a date last week (thanks girls for the yolo attitude advice cause that’s so not me), he’s been sooo much nicer and more open with me. We’ve been texting almost everyday when I have free time from fam vacation activities. We had an hour long text session the other night where he told me he couldn’t wait for our date together. He said he couldn’t wait to take me on a real dinner date with a celebratory drink. Keyword: A. He told me he never asked me on a date bc he always thought I would reject him. He said I only called him when I was bored or late so he was frustrated with me. He did the same to me so screw that gaslighting. He opened up about his sibling passing away and how he visited his gravesite this past weekend while visiting his family. He opened up about crappy past relationships with toxic women. He opened up about his family aging and wanting to give them grandchildren. He mentioned he wanted to start a family and move into a home out of this building. He mentioned that he was pretty depressed on his birthday bc all of his friends have families and he’s had a hard time finding the right one. He mentioned that his career life is impeccable. He opened up about it being tough to find friends who are single and not degenerates at his age. And all his professional friends are married so he feels out of place. At the end of our conversation, he joked that this was probably the most we’ve ever talked. We both laughed because he’s 100% correct with that statement. I will say he’s pretty heavy with all his emotions right now. I’m a pretty happy go lucky, life’s peachy, god has a plan for all of us, be thankful you’re healthy and have food on the table type of person so his stress was all a bit overwhelming but I understand where he’s coming from. He’s been texting me pretty much every other day. He’s not a good texter, sometimes doesn’t respond which pisses me off. He’s 40 so I blame his age. He once disappeared for 3 days. I corrected him so let’s see if he listens. He’s smart so if he likes me, he should. I think it’s so rude but he said he’s busy with family sometimes so I get it, especially if he’s visiting gravesites. I told him to give me a heads up if he’s gonna be away for a while so I know and don’t feel ignored. Soo yeah that’s where we’re at y’all 😂. Idk when he’s coming home but he knows I’m home now so I’d imagine he’s going to hop back soon causeeeee I’d like him in my presence. I’ll update you when he gets home. Until then, I’ll be ironing out my wedding dress yall 😂😂. Just kidding