Friends, FWB, more than friends? IDK

Question

Short summary, I’ve known this dude for YEARS and we are pretty close, we talk about a lot of personal things with each other and trust each other like friends would but at the same time there’s aspects that make it seem like we’re more than friends since we do have sex, it’s just confusing! Sometimes I overthink when he takes too long to respond but then I’m like we are not together omg. I don’t know what to do, sometimes I think about removing him from my life because it’s not healthy overall but at the same time, I’m comfortable with him and don’t have many close friends and I do enjoy having him in my life. But does anyone have a similar experience and how did that go in the long run?

Answer

The only way you are going to get answers is by talking to him. Hey we have known each other a long time and have been at this for ____. I just want to make sure that we want the same thing and are on the same page. Where are you at. Let him speak and see. You can say me too or decide if you want to continue or not. The last thing you would want is a situation down below. Make sure you want the same thing before you jump into an empty pool Head first. If you have a hard time separating sex from feeling then maybe this isn’t for you. Take things with a grain of salt and don’t over think it.  Some times people can be friends afterwards some can’t. If he messes with other people how are you going to feel. Keep reminding yourself and do check ins of how you are feeling. Good luck.