Do i let my love win ?

Hey there

Relationship advice please. My partner and I started dating about two years ago, and since then we’ve lived together. Living together wasn’t an issue at all. We never had any problems when we started dating I felt like I was the chase and I really liked that. He always watched what he said to me, listen to me, and wanted to talk about our problems and fix our issues. We both came from toxic relationships, but over time I opened up and fixed my problems & he tried as well but continues to have them. I have trust issues I won’t lie because there has been lies told and I’ve catch some truths. His relationship with his mother worries me because it lays on me, his mom hates him, expects him to give her money and take care of her, used to beat him, etc. & I feel like he’s so cold to me because of this childhood, example I like to talk about feelings and am very sensitive & he tells me that’s for weak people and all I do is cry.

Now I love my partner very much but lately it feels like I’m just walking on eggshells. The relationship has to go him way or else there is no relationship tbh.he Constantly says my way or the highway.ive noticed when we argue and have problems his respect for me is gone and says the most hurtful things. But later when he realizes it’s wrong he does apologize.i feel like I am ALWAYS BEGGING OR PULLING FOR HIS LOVE OR ATTENTION. As if I have to take it out of him to have a conversation. I do feel the love he has for me, I really do but when it’s bad ITS BAD.i live like a princess in honestly, we’ve been together when we had nothing to being financially better.

Now because he takes care of me I feel like he lays some issues on me. For example, sometimes he’ll hit me with the” you don’t work, you don’t know what it’s like to be tired”,, or the “ get a job so you could see how this feels” just because I nicely want to talk about some issues we’ve had. Yesterday he came home tired from work but told me he wanted to go to a bar or something. So he napped while I got ready and when we left he seemed off and told me he was still waking up I said “okay babe” and just gave him space in the car so I shutdown and started listening to the music instead of talking, he then says “ why aren’t you talking” and I said “ I want to give you your space to fully wake up just so I don’t annoy you” he then got upset and blew up. I didn’t intend to get him upset I just wanted to have a good night. His friends then call him and all of a sudden , he’s more awake then he’s ever been , he happy and laughing , making conversation. & it hurt because I had to drag it out of him just for him to be okay when his friends call? I constantly feel like he has more respect for his friends than me.

Example 2 : we got flights to visit his family for thanksgiving, his bestfriends gf tells me the date of their gender reveal and it’s the week of thanksgiving, I spoke to my bf and he changed the flight days to the week before. I didn’t care until I thought would they change their flight and plans for us. I honestly didn’t want to spend thanksgiving in our home or with my family this year. I love my friends to death but why is everything always on their time and it feels like my boyfriend respects and makes plans arounds theirs.

The other day, my boyfriend and I argued and he said some really mean things. When you got home from work, he ignored me and didn’t address the issue or apologize for the things. I still asked about his day and tried to be positive but he was just giving me an annoyed vibe so I gave him space. His friends called and all of a sudden he’s happy talking about his day and what not after they hang up his energy up his vibe is up and he comes to me and tries to lay down with me. I immediately got upset, then he got upset that I was upset and walked out. Like WTH

Honestly, thank you to whoever read this. I’m sorry so long, but I just need advice because I deeply love this man but I just feel like it’s constant disrespect towards me is not OK whether it’s because of his issues or not I don’t feel like it should be given to me .🤍