For the past few weeks my partner has gotten really lazy. He complains about almost everything: dishes, grocery shopping, taking the dog out, sweeping, etc. And today I’m fed up. The day literally JUST started and after I got out the restroom I asked him if he could go buy some milk (there’s a store literally right up out street) so I can make pancakes for breakfast and to take the dog out to pee while I sort out laundry to get started on it. He sighed and said “yeah”. So as I’m sorting out laundry I remember he still has not swapped out my car battery even though I asked him to do it Friday, and twice yesterday.

Apparently that really pissed him off because then he gets all mad and says “Fine but don’t even ask him to do anything else. After I get the milk, take the dog out and do your car stop asking me. This is why I shouldn’t have went with you to the party yesterday cause now I don’t even get to relax”. What?? The milk and the dog takes like what 10 minutes? And as for the party last night, I ASKED him if he wanted to go but if he didn’t want to I’d go with my parents. He said yeah and I even told him “if you really don’t wanna go lmk cause I don’t want to argue with you at the party cause you’re bored and wanna go home.” He went. We didn’t argue and yet here we are and he’s throwing it in my face. And when I told him that I didn’t make him go, his response was “You basically did. Cause then you would’ve been like you let me go alone and I was all alone and then you would’ve been mad”…again, what?? When have I ever done that?

And when I told him about him being kinda lazy lately he got more upset. And he repeated to leave him alone and I told him that we still have to go grocery shopping and cook food for dinner and for lunch for work tomorrow and his response? “I made wings for myself and I have school this week so I don’t need food”. And I said “So just cause you don’t need lunch you’re gonna let me go alone to buy all the groceries and make the dinner as well and do the laundry all by myself and make breakfast too?” And he stayed quiet. How am I supposed to communicate with him when he’s acting like an ass? This isn’t worth breaking up for but it’s getting really annoying when he talks this way. He does help around the house but it’s like when I stuff done, he doesn’t like being told. But I can’t be the only one doing stuff all day while he’s just in bed playing video games or watching podcasts.

I wanna be able to do something for him to realize how much work I’m actually doing. Plus in the next few years we’re gonna want kids and I need him to step it up and start doing more or else he’s not gonna be ready for a child. How can I tell him all this without offending him? Is there anything else I can do to help him acknowledge how hard it is doing everything?