For those of you who have been married and the abuse didn't start until marriage. Did it ever get better? Did medication ever help your partner and your marriage? My husband has been abusive on several occasions, but twice I left home because he was threatening. We have a 5 months old baby together. When he gets in those moods, he often speaks, but it doesn't make sense. He would say how much he hates me over and over. Never in a million years did I think I would be here. I'm contemplating divorce, but I don't know. We have tried counseling, but he doesn't feel it helps. My heart is broken.