squirting

so my SO is the first to ever technically make me squirt. the issue is whenever I do he can feel it but a lot doesn’t come out. it’s just a little bit and he always tell me “push it out and relax” but idk how lol. I’ve seen females on videos rub their clit does that help it come out since it’s through the urethra? also i’ve seen guys in video pull out whenever they feel it coming? just trying not to force it and let it flow I know I can do it bc he made me but when I think to hard about it, it doesn’t happen if that makes sense.. lol