I’m really at a loss. Sorry this will be long. My 5 year old daughter has been so tough lately. It’s been ever since she started kindergarten a few months ago, I’ve noticed so many changes in her. She’s super picky with food when she didn’t used to be, so she’s noticeably lost weight. She’s become more shy when that was never a problem. She is more emotional, and often cries to me telling me she doesn’t love herself and that she is “a horrible daughter” or “horrible sister” etc. I never told her that, nor would I ever! I can never discipline her anymore. If I take something away or if she accidentally hurts her little brother while playing or simple situations like these and she is reprimanded, she immediately tells me how bad she is and puts herself in timeout. I’ve been dropping to the ground to look her in the eyes and tell her to please STOP talking like that and how no one is mad at her, we love her no matter what and she is a GOOD girl just making a bad choice, but she continues. Idk if it’s for attention at this point or what. But I know she doesn’t really like school, the kids pick on her, one kid kicked her in the face, other kids make fun of her lunch, she’s having a hard time adjusting. Plus I think she’s still getting used to the fact she has a baby brother (1year old) but now he requires a lot more attention as he’s getting into stuff so she says we love him more than her. I try so hard to tell her this isn’t true, I make it a big deal when she does something good, I praise her all the time for good things she does. We go fun places all the time, I give her play dates all the time. She does still need discipline though and it’s like whenever I discipline her she puts herself down so bad. I’m concerned she’s going to get worse and I don’t know how to make her see how great she really is. I’ve considered switching her class, because she went to a tight knit preschool before this year and she continuously tells me how she misses it. There were 9 kids in her class in preschool and now she’s in a class of 23 kids. And of those 9 preschool kids, 4 of them got matched in the same class and my daughters class lines up with this class everyday so everyday she comes home and tells me how it isn’t fair they are all in the same class. I did find out one kid from that class recently moved so there is an opening. Yet I want my daughter to learn to make new friends and face new situations and grow some tough skin. But also, it’s affecting her to a point that I think isn’t normal? It breaks my heart seeing how “mean” she is to herself. But I also don’t want to be “that annoying parent who is coddling her kid” at school. Any advice is appreciated! Also to add- my conference with her teacher is coming up this week so I plan to address these issues