Questioning my marriage all too oftenšŸ˜•

Really donā€™t know if weā€™re meant to last. In the time weā€™ve had together I know we were meant to help eachother grow but after having children I just realize how selfish he is. Heā€™s changed a lot in a good way and has helped more but I feel so alone. Neither of us are very happy together. We basically feel like friends who coparent. Weā€™ve lived in separate rooms almost 2 years now. He tries to force ā€œkissesā€, and saying he loves me but I have a hard time. I also drifted very far away from his family as theyā€™ve all brought me so much toxicity. I care for him as a person and father of my kids but not sure as a wifešŸ„“ I keep thinking in time itā€™ll get better but we hardly even see eachother. He works a lot and I stay at home. We never go on dates and hardly enjoy each others company. Thereā€™s alot of reasons fueling to this ofcourse. I keep wanting to push through and see if weā€™ll make it but I donā€™t know how much longer and if itā€™s worth it. Iā€™m not exactly miserable or anything. Iā€™m lucky to stay home with my kids and have a house/car/food etc. Is it just a rough phase? Normal after kids? Or failing marriage period? I canā€™t distinguish šŸ˜µā€šŸ’«