Toxic father

So I live with my parents. My dad specifically is an incredibly toxic man who gets verbally abusive when drunk, and yes he’s an alcoholic.

He hits below the belt when it comes to his insults. And while I am used to his insults when drunk, he said this shit SOBER. So before work today we got into an argument and he said “your mom and i have been married for 30 years, maybe try and make yours last for more than 1 year this time”. For context my last relationship was for 6 years and i was proposed to. But one year into my engagement I found out i was being cheated on and the relationship fell apart. It was one of the darkest moments in my entire life.

Now i am in a happy relationship for a little over 3 years with a man of the same race as my ex.

What has been affecting me mostly is my dads comments. Specifically the following:

“try and make it to one year of marriage at least”

“Keep dating chinks and see where that gets you”

I find myself crying nonstop at work, my mind is a mess.

I said some nasty things back, i told him their marriage is nothing to look up to when my mother does 100% of the housework while maintaining a fulltime job, along with some other insults back.

But yeah idk what to do or think.

What breaks me the most is that he saw how much my breakup affected me. He knew i was cheated on. But the comments he makes make me feel as if I had control over the relationship working out. Hes always bringing up the failure of my last relationship in every argument and its fucking me up