Is it me???

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and I feel physically and emotionally great having sex with him and so does he. But a few things I’m having confusion on is that he’s not able to finish often and takes awhile yet when masturbating he does it quick. I’ve asked him if he’s alright with me, if I’m attractive, if I satisfy him, if somethings wrong with me, or if he’s feeling alright. It made me a bit concerned and he’s told me that stress can make him feel this way and can affect our sex but I’m still feeling not 100% good and sure about myself and feel slightly guilty. He says having sex with me is amazing but sometimes I wonder the most heart breaking or negative thoughts like , “maybe I don’t satisfy” or “I’m the wrong _____.” 
I’m not sure what to do here or whether or not I should explain this to him…. Anyone understand what I’m going through ?? (Please no hateful comments)

Answer

He’s probably gripping it really hard, so it takes longer to finish with you, it’s totally normal, but I’d ask him to not grip it so hard haha or he could be masturbating a lot! But it could be LOADS of different things too, like for me, I can finish myself in 30seconds but during sex it takes a lot longer to get there. Typically is easier to finish yourself than it is when a partner. So I don’t think it has anything to do with you!! I would just talk to him about it

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He may be masturbating too often.

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It’s definitely not you. He’s probably used to the tighter more aggressive feeling of his hand than the softer sensation of a vagina so it takes longer to cum with you. It’s called death grip syndrome and it’s really common for men who masturbate often. If it’s causing issues with your sex maybe he can try not masturbating for awhile and his dick will eventually adjust to the subtler stimulation of your vagina. Don’t let it get you down, it has nothing to do with his attraction to you

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It’s not you. 
It could be anxiety, the feeling of a condom, mental, etc.

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Side effect of a medication or supplement. Age. Lack of sleep. Blood issues starting like diabetes that’s constricts the blood. Happened to an ex of mine. Killed his penis. Diabetic meds killed another’s but he went and got a penis pump and Viagra. Depression. Anxiety. Stress. Antidepressants can mess with it too. A lot of things can.

Is it me???

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