Very overwhelmed (aith)

So I’m trying to be reasonable I swear I am. My husband is on a voluntary 8 day stretch, and he works 2 am to 10 am. He is exhausted. I let him nap from around 1-4:30 when he got home. Keeping our four year old off of him and distracted as we live in a one bedroom atm and our daughter has the room for her stuff my husband and I have our stuff in more of a studio apartment situation (we are in a multigenerational housing situation my mother lives in a separate portion of the same building).

This pregnancy has been absolutely horrible, I’ve been dealing with hyper emesis and throwing up through all the medications they give me. Between 1-9 times a day depending on the day some are better than others. I was initially losing weight but I haven’t checked in the last week I’m not sure I want to know. (I’m 9 weeks and have already had 3 appointments another next week and a hospital visit). So I’m barely functional.

Back to today. He wakes up from his nap and I’m like my turn the more I can sleep through of this nausea the better. But he just lets her run and scream because he is tired but inside voices are still a thing. She is throwing flower petals from a wedding she was in after I already told her no in front of him, to which his response was she’s just being a kid. But she is a kid who is well behaved and responsible and is 100% just acting out because we are both currently exhausted and god damnit I said no. So after about an hour of this screaming toddler child throwing things I told her not to have I called my mom telling her I need help because I’m about to have a full blown hormonal neurodivergent break down. She said to send her her way so I do. To which my husband goes against what I said AGAIN. Telling her to pick up the flower petals and I just looked at him kinda aggressively told him to stop contradicting me I said to go upstairs. I think at this point he realizes he is being a dick and starts picking up the mess and I just sat in my bed crying.

But like I get you are tired dude but you don’t get to let her run rampant around the house being destructive. You still have to be a parent sometimes no means no, inside voices still exists. Along with the hormones I’ve basically had a horrible stomach flu for 5 weeks, I don’t have the energy for this shit.