Told my mom that's all I want for my birthday. She has not talked to me since. I am turning 26. My husband is faaar older than I am. Due to age he is not able to preform very often. He says that because he feels he's not able to meet my needs sexually (which is not the truth at all because I've proven to him many times that it's not his junk necessarily that gets me off it's him and how he presents himself and making me feel like he's doing whatever it is a toy fingers eating me whatever it is that it's because hes doing it for me to make me feel good because he wants to that he's doing it with emotion. He could do whatever and yea sure I'll "cum" but nothing is better than him "getting me off". I can "get off just him kissing me when I am able to emotionally feel that deep feeling of connection. Because of such with him feeling how he feels he instead of trying and as he thinks potentially failing he doesn't do anything at all with me. Ultimately it makes things tense in our everyday lives. I get I guess you call it "sexually frustrated"