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I wanted to wait for my second baby but my husband didn’t want to wait lol! So I said this time we would wait but for some reason I’m not sure I can do it.
Is anyone else waiting?
To find out the gender until birth? This is our third and we have one boy and one girl already- which is the only reason why I can wait 😆 I’m also going through a birth center this time instead of the hospital. Anyone else? I’ve become significantly more ‘crunchy’ since my last baby. My second pregnancy was really hard. I was really sick for a lot of it and really really sore for most of it so I’m really going to try to just enjoy this pregnancy and birth the best I can! And I think it’ll be fun to wait and find out the gender at birth 😆
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Sh
Exactly! I definitely felt the need to know with my first for the same reason. My husbands family is 4 generations of nothing but boys and since dads determine the sex of the baby I’ve always just figured I’d have boys. But if for some reason we have a girl… we would be so unprepared 😂 I have also heard how amazing it is to find out at birth. So I’m undecided for now lol
Ra
I know!! It’s so hard! I’m more type A so I find comfort in being able to plan for a specific gender- but I just feel like that moment will be so special at birth!
I’m considering it. I have a 3 year old son and last November I had a stillborn baby girl. I am considering waiting to find out the gender but I don’t know if I’ll be able to stick to it.
Ra
It’s okay to feel detached and have some separation. You’re still grieving! Maybe you’ll feel more connected when you start showing or feeling baby move. And maybe waiting to find out the gender will make the birth all the more special!
Ma
I’m only 4 weeks and 3 days, I still don’t feel pregnant at all and I’m feeling really detached from this pregnancy right now, I’m just so afraid to have another late loss and hurt my entire family again, and I feel like some of my family is also going to be detached from my pregnancy because we are all traumatized. That’s partially why I want to wait to find out the gender 🫠 but I don’t want to be negative.
Ra
So sorry for your loss 💔 - how far along are you now? It’s a tough choice but I think it could be fun!
I’ve gone back and forth on it. We found out for our first and I thought it made my daughter feel more “real” at the time, if that makes sense. We picked her name and as we were decorating her nursery it felt like we were preparing a room specifically for her. Butttt everyone who does a surprise says it’s so incredible to find out in the moment! So idk🤷🏼♀️
Ra
That’s how I feel too! My kids felt more ‘real’ too after finding out the gender but it’s only a short time that we won’t know! It’s a hard decision 😅
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