Someone please tell me if I’m in the wrong for this. Me and my husband have been arguing a lot lately about getting our own place. We’ve lived with his parents since we’ve been married, we quickly got pregnant with our first and I voiced to him how bad I wanted our own place and he said we would. Fast forward 4 years and another baby and we’re still living here. We living in a 2 bedroom trailer with the smallest room being ours, it hardly held mine and his things let along a toddler bed, and bassinet now, we basically just have room to walk to our bed. On top of us and our kids, plus his parents his sister lives here on the couch. So that’s 7 to of us. It’s so overwhelming. His sister sleeps all day long in the couch and stays up all night. It very hard for me to keep my 3 year old quiet all day so she can sleep, she getting aggravated at my daughter when she’s playing and wake her up, which drives me insane. No one here cleans, they let dishes pile and everything gets so bad and I’m someone who absolutely cannot stand clutter and messes so I constantly try to keep it clean, which is hard because I’m cleaning up after my family plus 3 adults that are capable of it. My mother in law is always making rude comments aimed towards me and it drives me insane and I never say anything to her because I don’t want to make living here more miserable than it already is. My husband only works in the summer months, he has a car and is perfectly capable of working a full time job. I don’t have a car, I have offered to get a job through the winter so we can move out but he doesn’t wanna take me back and forth and thinks he can’t watch our kids while I’m at work. Mind you I do everything for our kids, all day everyday while he sits on Xbox ALL DAY. He says we will save up and move a trailer onto his parents land but to me that’s just not going to happen with his job he us now as we would have to pay for the trailer, to have it moved and set up, to have water lines dug and the septic system set up and the electric set up. I told him it would be easier to rent something but “that’s a waste of money” 💴 ya always an excuse. He won’t get a job because “I don’t wanna miss my kids growing up” we can’t get an apartment because “I don’t wanna be around people”. So basically he just wants to play Xbox all day. When I tell him “well that’s what people do, we can’t live with your parent forever” he turns it around on me and says I’m just trying to make him feel bad. He’s 30🥲. I just want my own home with my kids. I want to feel like a wife and do wife things like clean and cook and decorate our home. I want to be able to parent my kids without other people butting in. I just want to be happy. This is taking a huge toll on my mental health and I can’t take it. I want my babies to have a happy mom. I think about leaving every day but I just don’t know how I can take care of two kids when I don’t have a car or a job. I also don’t have any family whatsoever to help me. I feel stuck. Am I asking for too much? Is he right. Mar