I need an outsiders perspective. I feel like my husband and our 12 year old Daughter are at it all the time now, and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells.

She is very forgetful at times, and he instantly wants to take her phone from her or not low her to do anything when she forgets to do something or makes a mistake. I’m all for kids being responsible, but it’s the manner that things are done on his part that bothers me. He doesn’t try to talk to her about anything, he just immediately becomes hateful and patronizing. He also approaches situations in a sarcastic and demeaning way, and it has been so hard for me not to lash out at him. He thinks just because he doesn’t yell, he’s not mean and he’s doing things the right way. I 100% disagree. Sometimes I feel as if I make the situation worse, because I have tried and tried to talk with him about his method of approach, but he doesn’t seem to understand, and it’s soooo aggravating and frustrating.

Our Daughter isn’t perfect by any means but he doesn’t try to approaching things in a better way, nor does he choose to “pick his battles”. Everything done wrong does not go unnoticed and she’s starting to notice this and it’s bothering her. She blew up and cried and yelled the other day after an incident and I could see the pain in her eyes and he basically mocked and ridiculed her.

His son from a previous marriage doesn’t live with us full time, and he’s NOT like this with him. He can sometimes be like this with me.