She (80s) moved in with us (F25,M24) 2 days after Thanksgiving after having issues with her Daughter in Law, and was supposed to only stay less than a month while her son, who has multiple health issues, was moved to a home in our state ( they lived in Georgia)

Well he didn’t want to move, and it went from “oh she’ll be gone before Christmas” to “happy new year!” (He officially moved to the home on the 29th)

The plan was shed live with us for a month while her son got settled, then move in with her daughter.

Then On December 30th, she fell down our stairs and tore a ligament in her shoulder.

I talked to my fiancée and told him I think she should move in with her daughter, his mom, sooner so she can watch her and make sure she gets help with stuff, and he said no.

Why? His mom isn’t ready yet.

But he tells me she’ll be gone by January 22

Talk to his mom today “I won’t be ready till at least mid February.”

WHAT

His grandma isn’t a bad person, but I can never feel at home, especially because we were strangers when she moved in.

I talked to his mom and her son and his friend helping her and she said absolutely not, why? Because he wants her to throw stuff away she doesn’t use.

Idk what to do, I was okay with her living here when it was two weeks, but I don’t even wanna have sex anymore because I feel so uncomfortable with her being here.

I feel very unhappy and stressed because it doesn’t feel like I wa given a choice. It wasn’t a “we are doing this” but how can I tell my fiancée no when his grandma is more like a mom than his real one, it would make me an asshole.

We just started living together and had just been engaged for two months when this happened.

*fyi, I 100% know I sound like an asshole. But like I said, 2 weeks, no problem, 3-4 months?! I can’t do that, not when we can’t leave her alone anymore