Is it ok to want to have a baby with someone who won't commit to you?

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Do many people do this where they have kids with guys who won't commit to her in a relationship like a friends with benefits? I would be thinking about having a baby with my friends with benefits but he is not my boyfriend. He is settled with a good job and has his own place and I still live with my parents. We are both adults and graduated from college. Is this a bad idea?

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I thought you said you weren’t trying to get pregnant, Christina?

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Yes. You live with your parents. When you move out and are financial stable and independent, have a baby with whatever consenting person you choose.

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Dude you live with your parents??  And this man doesn't care about you like that ?? Hello ?? Is this for real

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Why would you want this when you are still living with your parents? You are still in a parent-child living situation, you being the child. Even if he agrees to this, what makes you think he won’t dip if it becomes too much responsibility for him? He has no ties to you and owes you nothing so he could easily just check out and do nothing for the child. Are you prepared to be a single mother and financially care for yourself and your child? Have you thought about childcare? Even if he does stick around do you know what his thoughts on parenting are? Would he be willing to learn evidence based parenting methods and educate himself on brain development and infant safety? What if he is a violent father? What if he ends up being resentful of you but now you guys are tied together for life? This whole idea seems really ridiculous and silly.

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Does he even want a baby? I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with two people who want a baby and plan to coparent together. But two people need to be on board with that.

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Having a baby doesn’t require a romantic relationship between the parents

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Are they wanting to have a child with their FWB?

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I don’t think many people do that on purpose, but yes there are people who choose to have a baby with someone they trust even if they aren’t in a relationship because it’s far easier/cheaper than IVF or trying to adopt a baby as a single person. Make sure you and the guy are 100% on the same page about everything before proceeding with this—including his involvement or lack of, any child support, what his relationship will be with the child, what would happen if the child is born with a disability etc.

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Please tell me this is a bad joke…A woman can’t be THIS stupid?!?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Yes that’s a bad I dea to chose that life for your baby and it’s high guarantee you’ll do it alone. You don’t want to give your baby a higher chance of a two parent in live stable house hold? ￼

Is it ok to want to have a baby with someone who won't commit to you?

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