For starters, if you have any homophobic comments, anti surrogate comments, extremely religious comments(saying you'll pray for us is fine), just go away please. You're not welcomed here. Just leave the post.

I was a surrogate for my best friend for the second time around. This post is NOT me saying I regret it. I would do it all over again for them. I'm a mom myself. I was the surrogate for their daughter. And had their triplets 3 weeks ago. My pregnancy and my birth with my child and their daughter was super easy. Their daughter was born in a few hours and I didn't even tear with her. This birth of their triplets was traumatic. One I had to have a c-section and I've never had one before. I was in so much pain. And two one of the babies did not survive. They cremated their son and had a memorial. I completely understand why everyone is more focused on them. They have two babies who were premature and lost a baby. The babies are home now and everyone is trying to be there for them and I completely understand. What I'm a little sad about is nobody has checked up on me. I'm not expecting them to. They have grief and two babies plus their 5 year old. I understand they need time. But even my own family hasn't checked up on me. I didn't have much help healing from the C-section. I may have no been biologically related to that baby but I still grew that baby. So it killed me that the baby didn't make it. Nobody has said "How are you holding up about it?" I feel like my body failed my nephew and my best friend. Am I being selfish for wishing someone would ask me if I'm okay and if there's anything they can do for me.