I(22m) have a wife named (22f). Her sister is getting married and we've known about this wedding for a year now. 6 weeks ago I went out with friends and got a ride home from another friend. I didn't know this friend was under the influence while driving. I fell asleep in the car and next thing I knew the car was rolling. I was in the hospital. I broke my back. There was damage to my bladder. I had to get surgery and will have to get another one soon. I'm currently in a wheelchair. I have physically therapy to hopefully to walking again soon and I completely forgot about anything to do with a wedding. My wife brought it up and I said I really didn't want to go. She can still go though. She was upset about that. She really wants me there but I am in a lot of pain still and I just don't wanna be at a wedding. She keeps saying that we already RSVP'd. I think her sister will understand. I almost died in a car accident. My mom agreed to come help take care of me while she's at the wedding and my wife really didn't like that because her and my mom have their own issues. I just really don't feel up for this wedding. Does that make me an asshole.