I have been with my husband for 4 years. He has 3 kids and bio mom has full custody. He got them every other weekend and I have never really bonded with them. I've tried. They've just kind of wanted to do their own thing. I found out last week that their mom had been sending videos to my step son's and their friends from years ago when I used to post on pornhub. I don't know how she found me and it's honestly humiliating. My husband found out because he went through his son's phone. He told me if it makes me feel better it was mainly his boys friends that participated in making fun of me and his son's responses was mainly "Jeez mom!" But this lady hates me so much she sent my old sex videos around to my step kids to get them to hate me and their friends and made fun of me and what s slut I was. This all blew up in her face because now my husband is taking her for full custody and him along with the parents of the friends are pressing charges because it's a felony to send porn to a minor. Now I'm being harassed by her family because they are saying it's petty to ruin her life, throw her in jail and make her a sex offender. My husband response has been play stupid games, win stupid prizes. It's been a mess and I feel humiliated. It's embarrassing to be around my step son's and we are all super awkward around each other since it came out and I feel like such an outcast and being blamed for taking the boys away from their mom.