Is it too soon?

Question

Hey guys… I’m 20 years old and I’ve been talking to this guy for 2 months now. We’ve been taking it extremely slowly though, to the point that we aren’t official but we only talk to each other in “that kind of way”.. If that makes sense. (texts & calls everyday…good mornings every morning. Ask how I sleep. Calls me every night before bed, etc). Anyways, again it’s been 2 months.. and things got semi-heated (if you know what I mean) while texting earlier today. Like even though we were joking, I still felt an urge. I’m suppose to be going to his house tomorrow just to chill… but what if things take a turn? One part says I’m ready, the next part says wait a little longer. Is 2 months too early? I honestly don’t want to hear “you’re grown do what you want” because I know I have free will but I want to have that big sister/mother advice that I didn’t ever have… 
P.s he isn’t pressuring me at all, he barely even mentions it.. but it’s me the ones that’s wanting it lol. & 
Also, I’m not a virgin. so it’s not new to me lol. But this is a guy I really like &… I want to go further with him. 
Just tell me your thoughts, opinions , suggestions.. advice ?

Answer

Go at your own pace. I slept with my husband after a month of talking and after sleeping with him I was like ok this was a one night stand, only because he’s 6 years older and I had just turned 21 and we were drinking and I told myself don’t get too attached it’s probably nothing serious….but that next morning we went to breakfast and hung out the entire day. Now we’ve been together for 13 years and have a 4 year old. 2 months isn’t too early just do what makes you feel comfortable.

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In the end, youre the only one who can tell if you're ready or not. 
Nothing is too early. You do you. That is the only advice I can give. 
If things get heated and you go with it - thats fine! 
If things get heated and you wanna stop again - thats also fine! (And how he handles it will say a lot about his character btw) 
Go with your own pace and stay protected. 
Be honest with him.

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Some people sleep together on the first date, some people wait til marriage, some people go by the 3 date rule, some people do 3 month rule, some people wait till they are in a committed relationship before going there. It’s all up to you. What you are comfortable and ready for. Always be prepared just in case. Condoms. Birth control. Water based lube. Extra underwear. Tooth brush, groomed downstairs Etc. better to be prepared and have it than not have it and regret it later. Since you had that heated conversation you have now put it on the table. But again you have what he wants. You call the shots. Whatever you are ready for. And comfortable with. Making out. Dry humping. Oral sex. Or actual sex. Talk about everything ahead of time. Last time you both got tested. Boundaries. What you are open to and what’s off limits. I’m up front with men. I will not peg you, anal in any form is off the table. Feet are off the table. Urine or shit or anything else. Period sex is not happening. Shoving my head down during oral sex. And whatever else you may or may not be into. And remember don’t ask questions that you don’t want an honest answer to. Best sex you have ever had,  when you are Looking for validation thinking he’s gonna say you after you had sex and they say someone else’s name and you get upset. If him telling you he has had a lot of sexual partners is going to upset you then don’t ask. Ask what you actually want to know or need to know. I dated a guy he told me he  had been with 43 women before me. My next question was when was the last time you got tested and do you use condoms. If that is something that would make you run the other way or is a red flag then. Talk about everything before you jump in. If you are ready then that is a decision that only you can make. What would happen if you fell pregnant. Could you Handle it on your own if he disappeared. Talk about Everything. Don’t catch feelings unless he’s got them too. Play it cool. Go with the flow. Face fun and be safe.

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everyone goes at their own pace. I had sex with my bf after two weeks of knowing each other but I’ve known people that wait months. I’d just see how it goes and see if it feels right in the moment. I don’t think there’s a too soon or too late, just whatever feels right

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