Tell me if I am being too paranoid and putting too much thought into this problem.

I am currently 7 months pregnant and the dad and I have been broken up + on bad terms since I was 3 months pregnant. We’ve only spoken a few times these past 7 months and each time he disappoints me. He has been blocked on everything except WhatsApp since. I unblocked him at the end of 2023 out of curiosity on instagram. On his friend suggests this girl who I have never seen appeared. Her page was public and an intuition told me to click on it. So I did. Turns out she posted all the time at the bar he works at. I’m not going to lie since then I have lurked her page but have never viewed it from my own personal page. I realized they follow and unfollow each other about 3x a week. That’s when I realized ok well this is the girl he cheated on me with.

Fast forward, last week on my birthday he called me with the intention of seeing me and being a family etc. I confronted him about the girl and he said she was a “lunatic friend” and a bunch of bullshit which I knew wasn’t true. He kept trying to keep in contact but since I knew he was lying I didn’t have intention of even entertaining his bullshit. Days later I put a status up saying “the truth always comes to light🙏🏻.” He responded saying “omg what did I do now!?” It wasn’t directed towards him but the shoe fit. That same night he deleted her and since then never added her again. I knew I had part to do in that since he was aware I had caught on to his lies.

I know I shouldn’t be lurking on that girls page but I can’t help it+ her ig page is public. Since then the girl has posted numerous statuses about wanting to fight another girl, throwing indirects to a girl, saying things like “when I see you I’m going to fight you.”

Maybe I’m being too paranoid but I suspect it’s about me. Since then I’ve had a lot of fake accounts try to add me on instagram. Plus, I already realized around the time she started seeing him she had sent her best friends to add me in instagram. Also, he’s very good at manipulating and lying. Knowing him, he capable of making something up to convince her I probably have problems w her or tell her that I watch her stories. She use to post about 6+ a day and since he deleted her she stopped posting completely. I knew when he was with her because she’s the type of person that posts every single thing she does. Once he deleted her she went cold turkey.

I don’t have any problems with her. She’s just another girl he’s fucking. Am I being paranoid for thinking it’s about me? This girl clearly has intentions of physically fighting.

My ex doesnt live near me but works around MY town. She lives minimum 1.5 hrs away from me but has been coming to my town and to the places I use to be frequent at before I was pregnant. See the issue here? I’m not going around looking for problems, he’s bringing the problems to me! It’s crazy to even think what lies he’s willing to make up just to get away with shit.

I know because he use to mentally manipulate me a lot the years I was with him.

I was just lurking because I didn’t want to be lied. to anymore. He kept insisting he was “working on himself” when in reality he’s been fucking this girl!