So a guy I was with for a short time(4mo). He ended things. It was a bit tumultuous as he had alot of stressor going on. As that stress built I felt he was taking some stuff out on me. He asked me for money back that he gave me ( I have no problem giving it back. He didn't let me know before hand It was going to be a loan. Said he felt used and wanted it back)

I told him I'd pay him back. He broke up with me left a long letter. His parent died. He popped back up wanting an exact estimate of when he'd get his money back. I sent condolensces.. he said he'd leave me alone until the near end of Feb.

Now my mom suffered a heart attack. She's in the hospital. Idk when she get out.

I'm with her and I'm helping her and facing a possible eviction. I'm trying gto be sensitive to this man's plight but I'm going through my own stuff and I don't want to have to deal with him rearing his head at the end of February with all I'm dealing with too.

Am I the asshole knowing his parent passed for mailing back an item that was near to him( dead sibs necklace) that he left at my house and paying him when I can and just blocking?. @Sam; i never said i wouldnt give it back. Thats not even the question. Im giving it back as soon as possible. Im just mailing it but im going through stuff too. And i feel its wrong to do something for someone not specifiy its a loan and turn around and want it back. I told him id pay him back. Just wish he told me before hand and i wouldve never asked. But i even said id pay him back so thats not the issue.@ Isla: he didnt when he gave it to me intially. It was after he gave it to me and i used it and even then i was blind sided but i said okay ill pay you back and hes just keeps checking up on me until i do.