in the past, she’s expressed to me concerns about him. he once up and left for 3 days (they live together) and never contacted her. then he came back and was explaining to her that he felt she had bad demons coming off of her and onto him which is why he needed to get away. 🙄 like yall you can believe in some bad demons but you can also admit you’re just being sneaky and don’t a good person. 🤦🏻‍♀️she told me he did this because “something happened” and wouldn’t explain it further. the few times that i’ve been on a call with her, he sounds like a man child. making inappropriate jokes, sometimes racist and sexist and she lets it slide. he was also driving recently, went through a stop sign, got pulled over and he didn’t have his license, the car wasn’t registered, and it had no insurance. he isn’t working so she had to pull the money out of her own pockets to pay for the expenses. his excuse was that he just didn’t know it was needed if he was only driving 2 minutes down the road to the store. 🤦🏻‍♀️ of course, she let’s that slide too. she’s told me that they’ve broken up many times and then reconciled. they have since got engaged, and from the looks of it, i don’t really think it was his doing but more on her part asking him to marry her. this past week, she called me to say that he left suddenly again and then came back telling her that their engagement was off, or at least pushed until another year because he was unsure if he still wanted to marry her. i told her that if he truly loved her, he would want to make her his woman and show it through his actions. of course…again, excuses—“i need to give him some time to think,” “i seriously think he may have bipolar,” “he just gets like that sometimes.” i’m waiting to talk to her because that last phone call was when i was busy with something. now i’ve called her and i asked her if she can’t talk about it and she quietly says no and that she isn’t alone. then he asks who’s on the phone and she tells him it’s me and the first thing he says is “fuck you” but in a funny way. i don’t know if i can keep giving relationship advice out to her. i dont know the inner details on the relationship but i really would not like to go to her wedding (if it still does happen) because i’ve never ever heard her say one positive or even neutral thing about this man. i cannot observe any good or redeemable qualities in him. 😭😭

wtf do i even do atp 😭😭it’s like i give advice and it goes out the other ear