I need help understanding. If this isn’t the place to ask then I apologise. I’m not sure where to go because I don’t know if they have Reddit and this would make them pretty identifiable.

My brother got married to his fiancé last October. They booked it in Iceland with about 8 weeks notice. It was for parents only (she doesn’t have siblings). Something about it all seemed off as it was all suddenly very rushed, poorly planned and family were kept out of the loop - apparently my brother didn’t want me to know either but I had to be told because my parents were babysitting for me on that weekend so we had to cancel our plans.

Skip forward to now, and they still haven’t told anyone they’re married or put anything on Facebook because they want to have a “wedding reveal”. So they’ve booked a venue in, once again, 8ish weeks time. They’ve only just told us about the date but haven’t told us a time or even a venue. I probably won’t be able to get childcare (it’s a no under 8s event) but from what I understand, because they’re not going to have kids, “this will be like their gender reveal”.

Help me understand? I’m not sure what they’re expecting the reaction to be apart from one of confusion? I’m so baffled.

Also, I completely get that it’s their wedding and they can do things however they like with whomever they like but I’ve never heard of this.