He games a lot & I feel guilty for how feel 😩 …

I really really love this man! (Just need to start out saying, I really do love him and this is me trying to talk it out to understand my feelings)

He’s 36, I’m 38…

I have two children, who I have raised alone the last 10 years (ex disappeared when they were babies, they’re 11 and 9 now.)

My partner has a daughter who is 10, he split with his ex a year after she was born and had her on weekends. His ex and I are cool.

A year ago he moved in, the weekends his daughter is here and shares a room with my daughter. They ARE sisters! Lol my heart is so happy with the bond we all have…

But… I feel like I’m doing everything. For everyone. I don’t care my man games … it only became a problem when he found a gamer friend that games 24/7. This only happened a month or so ago.

So it’s shocking to me. He always gamed a lot… but he was in kind more alert or there even when gaming.. now it’s like he’s just there.. hard to explain.

When he moved in, I always just did things anyway… I make dinner, I bring it to the bedroom when he gets home from work, I do this because he’s tired and feet hurt, I figure he needs to decompress before maybe handle my two kids and my older mother.

Before he’d be a part of things.. so I respected taking care of him and his daughter plus my kids and my mother…

Now.. this change … It’s hard to feel like you’re showing gratitude and love by caring for him so much that he’s just gaming and now not realizing his surroundings.

We just talked, we figured out the timing and balancing BUT … there’s live situations that happen that he won’t stop to do anything

I’m building a box spring for our bed.

Side note: my kids leave him alone a lot of the time if not all the time.

But tonight my son wanted to be there.. probably because my son build the bed frame (this happened right before we started talking).

My son thought I was getting rid of the bed he built, lol he actually built it.

We weren’t, I just got a box spring cause all old and it was to low to the ground lol

But my man couldn’t catch “read the room” kind of things. So I said hey can you help, can you get off a bit and help me with Joe? My son was going nuts.

So he did.

Finally I finished the box spring, put it together with the bed… got up and I turned around and he has his head set on. 😩

I do not care if he games! I care if he has to be told “um the world of children is breaking down around you and I need help to make this bed better … (while feeling bad for feeling like I’m nagging)

Sorry it’s a lot and I’m rambling… if you read this far, I appreciate any input. I do love him so much, I just need some people to talk to