Hi at the ripe age of 25 and 3 years into my relationship- it’s finally come to the time where I have decided to try and orgasm.

Through self exploration and great sex with my partner, I realize I have never actually had the big beautiful moment everyone else gets. I feel the build up but then my mind just goes “whelp, that’s enough for me” and I stop cause the feeling is becoming overwhelming and I’m scared to continue.

I don’t know why but I do have a really weird fear of it. Kind of like I’m afraid of the mess or the sounds I could make or just simply scared of how it could feel.

If anyone has any tips or tricks to push past my fear and my mind telling me “okay, we’re good now” I’d really appreciate it!

Also, I recently felt like it was working up to one (got too nervous) but with clit stimulation my clit started feeling like it was freezing cold. Like someone put ice down there. I feel weird asking but is that normal?

Thanks for any help.