my partner and i have been hooking up for the past month, and we have slowly moved on from just kissing to giving each other head, to having sex. the first time he couldn’t get hard at all, despite foreplay in the beginning he could only get hard when we had our clothes on, but as he got more comfortable he was able to stay harder for longer.. however, its easy for him to lose it, since he gets distracted or has things on his mind. (anxiety, overthinking, and ig focusing too much on pleasing me). although its gotten better, we both still feel like its a problem since he can’t stay hard the whole time. hes more concerned than i am lol.