Am I the problem? Please be transparent with me.

Question

I would like advice and I am able to take tough criticism as I never take things personally when it comes to advice. I have a boyfriend, we have been together for a short span of time. My period was due 3 days ago. I’ve been waiting and waiting and waiting, the cramps felt stronger so I was getting prepared. Until finally, I just took a pregnancy test and the faintest smallest pink line because visible and it is clear I am pregnant. 
Every time my boyfriend has sex with me he pulls out well ahead of time, way before he needs to cum and then he cums far away from my vagina. One time he came around my vagina I fingered myself so sperm could’ve got inside. 
I sent him a text I said “well I’m pregnant” he asked me what I was talking about and said it couldn’t have been from him. 
He has been calling and calling, but I am drained. He was here earlier, before I found out and he slept the entire time I gave him oral because he’s an alcoholic and forced me to continue. I was so drained I did it so he would stop asking. My guy friend says that it blows him that one little tiny sperm could get me pregnant and thinks IT sounds very unlikely that it’s from him. 
Am I the problem? If my relationship fails because of this is it because of how I’m acting right now? Not taking his calls etc. I am honestly drained I just don’t wanna talk. I don’t wanna argue I don’t wanna fight. He makes me feel insecure. I just wanna be by myself. If it comes to that point, I will just have an abortion. I don’t want any trouble.

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I’m confused as to why you’re not talking to your boyfriend. It does sound like you’re trying to dodge the conversation about your pregnancy, which is suspicious. I don’t blame him for calling and calling. You just told him big news and ghosted him. And why are you talking to your guy friend about it but not your boyfriend?

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You’re both the problem. You’re having irresponsible, unprotected sex with an alcoholic who (it seems) has a pregnant girlfriend. He’s a cheater and you’re being stupid and irresponsible.

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It’s called precum and it comes out at anytime during foreplay/sex. And it absolutely can get you pregnant. You and your friend should figure some shit out. Lol

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First red flag, he said ain’t mine and accusatory. Second red flag he is an alcoholic and you’re worried of ruining the relationship? Third reg flag you felt forced to continue? That’s not ok. Also are you asking if it is possible it is his baby? I feel like there is missing info

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Only you know if you’ve slept with someone else or not. You both seem like the problem. You can’t tell someone that you’re pregnant and then dodge any questions they want. 
He’s an alcoholic, so think wisely about your next steps.

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I honestly think that you'll regret the abortion so don’t  do it. You need to talk to your boyfriend and stop avoiding him. Or are you avoiding him and talking about having an abortion because you cheated and don't want to admit it?

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You are not the problembut your attitude towards the situation is. Don't just have an abortion because you don't want any trouble. You HAVE TO  talk to your boyfriend, answer when he calls!!!! What has gotten into you?!!? You know what? Don't wait for him to call, call him back, apologise for not answering and have a serious discussion with him about the two of you moving forward as well as the baby. Good luck.

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Pre cum can get you pregnant. The pull out method is not a relaible method to prevent pregnancy. He shouldnt be "making you" do anything. If you want to have the abortion have it but only if you want it. If you want him gone because hes a piece of shit let him go. If you decide to keep the pregnancy just co parent but dont be together. You deserve better.

Am I the problem? Please be transparent with me.

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