Sexual compatibility

Ok so my hubby and i have been together since i was 18....I was not a virgin but also was convinced sex was for the man and not the woman...we have been together for 15 years....he has always guided the sexual encounters we have...aside from a couple that were guided by me. He is very vanilla...extremely vanilla...like if vanilla had a more innocent little sister! That would be my man!! I was the same in the beginning but over the years i realized i am not vanilla at all....i like to get down and fuckin nasty! But i know some of the stuff that i really like or enjoy are a huge turn off to him. What do we do? We cannot find a win win!!!