Emotional abuse?

I need to vent. Yesterday my husband and I were putting the kids to bed and our youngest kept getting out. At one point after putting him into bed for the 3rd time I went to the bathroom. All I hear is my husband screaming my name and I yell what then he says “nevermind you’re useless”. I got out and was so upset, I told him to never say that to me again and I said he was. I am a SHAM who never gets a break unless I ask for permission for myself. I’m exhausted and being treated like I don’t matter. How am I useless? That’s all that’s been running through my mind all day. Am I overreacting?

My husband works and is the provider. He gets to go and come as he pleases. He works out for 3 hours a day goes to work and sometimes goes back to the gym. He’s been taking the kids to after school activities but only the ones he likes like karate! If I ask him if he’s staying home he’ll respond to me like “do you need a babysitter” they’re not just my kids as I a babysitter? That’s not how I see it. It’s so disheartening!