I feel like ranting about your in-laws is so common but honestly I just am so annoyed and hurt and need to get it off my chest and don’t want to vent to people in my family.

I am pregnant with my first baby and she will be the first grand baby in the family. My husband is the oldest child in his family and is seriously the “golden boy”. Overall is mom is very nice to me- but you can tell she gets jealous/protective of my husband and it’s always kinda been an issue for me. (Says he’s her boy and not mine, ect)

Now being pregnant it is so much worse. I feel like I’m like a handmaid or surrogate and all she cares about is the baby and my husband. She lives like 20 minutes away from us but is still setting up a whole nursery in her home with new furniture and clothing for the baby- and newborn stuff! We have purchased a lot of second hand things for our baby because we’re trying to be frugal and she always talks bad about it and makes me feel bad but is buying the best new stuff for her house- I have said I don’t think there would be a reason for baby to stay there especially when she’s newborn and my MIL gets so upset. Yesterday my MIL was saying she wants to take the baby to “grandma and me” swim lessons… I’ve been waiting my whole life to be a mom and I want to be the one to take the baby to swim lessons! My MIL always whines and complains that I “will never let her be alone with the baby” but I honestly don’t understand that… why would she need to be alone with the baby? It would be different if she wanted to come to swim lessons ect with us, but why the obsession with doing things alone? I told her she should be having her own baby if that’s what she wants! It’s just making me feel really bad and upset. Like she just wants me to birth the baby then couldn’t care less if I stick around. My husband will listen to me and agree but he doesn’t feel like I should bring it up because he says they’re just excited for their first grand baby. My MIL also has asked to be in the delivery room even after I told her I didn’t want anyone else there. She told me she had a dream the babies name was “Mia” and now refers to the baby by that name or insists I at least make it the middle name.

She is honestly driving me crazy and I feel like we had a good relationship before but now I just don’t want to be around her. She also comments on my body all the time since getting pregnant and always comments on the food I eat- she actually said to me “you know the baby can only get nutrients from the food you eat right” LIKE clearlyyyyy I know that. It’s just non stop whenever we see her and every time now I feel so shitty and annoyed when we leave.

I do want them to have a relationship with the baby-especially because my mum passed and my dad has terminal cancer so might not be here when baby is born. But it’s been too much!

The other issue is my step mom is coming from out of town when baby arrives to stay with us and I want her at the delivery and now I’m scared to tell my MIL. I’m just very close with my step mom and know she will be a huge help during and after baby comes with cooking and cleaning whereas my MIL has mobility issues and wouldn’t do any of that stuff.