Boyfriend caught micro cheating but said it was an accident?!

Virgo🥀

So I decided to peep through my boyfriend’s phone because he’s been acting weird the last few days. He doesn’t mind when I go through it. I’ve been given permission to,whenever I feel like it. I’ve been cheated on the past and picked up on certain behavioral patterns and though he’s never cheated, I wouldn’t put it past him because he’s just a man and young at that. We are both 23.

I am 15 weeks pregnant and haven’t been sexually active because life with him is so stressful. We share my car right now because he blew two motors in six months on both of his trucks. He does contract work and got a job in Louisiana so we had to move out here to provide for our child and I have nobody to help me back home, so there was no other option but to come with him so he’d have a way back-and-forth.

Long story short when I went through his phone, I found searches for things like only fans, and single women Facebook groups. he said he accidentally clicked on that group, but the profile picture was a girl with her lady bits hanging out of her underwear, so I don’t believe it was an accident especially because it was recent, and we’ve been fighting more often. There were a few dozen searches for random women that he doesn’t even know, not gonna lie. They were attractive and young, so I don’t think he was looking for people that he may know. We’ve had issues with him coming home and watching porn in the bathroom while I was waiting for him in bed in the past, as well as looking for female friends to talk to when he got mad at me, even though his best friend is a woman, he has a sister and a mother that are very supportive. They don’t tell me what they talk about with him either so it’s not like he can’t trust them. He chooses not to talk to them though and because of that he tells me not to call my mom and talk to her when I need someone but I have no friends because of him and being pregnant. We’ve had arguments about how I should be a modest woman and not post my body on social media which I never do and have never done, and need to allow him to like pictures of girls that do that and let him support them if that’s what he wants to do because he used to do photography for women, nude or in lingerie, and his ex wife was a model as well. He’s called me insecure on multiple occasions and told me that no one else acts like that, but the reason I do is because he’s literally compared my body to his ex wife’s during sex, and made me feel unworthy by doing everything else I’ve stated above. He screamed at me telling me that I needed to act like his friends girlfriend, because she’s quiet and doesn’t argue, right after pushing me, then threatening to punch me in the face because I was arguing that i shouldn’t be compared to other women when he’s upset. That girl is 20 dating a 30-year-old man that doesn’t act like my boyfriend does. The argument started over me asking him not to leave her with me in our apt while him and his friend left because I was newly pregnant, didn’t know her,(she was only coming in to use the toilet) and the guys were both drunk and already acting funny so I didn’t want them driving.

On another occasion he told me I need to get over him looking at other girls because he doesn’t cheat and went as far as telling me that my friends have nice bodies (asses,tits,etc.) to go on and call it exposure therapy.

I have decided to leave him and he says that he won’t be in our child’s life because of my decision since I’ll be in a different state and his job won’t allow him to visit frequently.

I’m concerned for my daughter because she won’t have her father in her life, but this is the best decision I can make for the both of us since I have no support system as it is where we live and this has been beyond toxic. I’m going back to my home state where my parents currently reside.

I understand that while I think something is a good idea, someone else may not agree so I wanted a second opinion, because he didn’t technically cheat, and I have no proof that he was lying. Am I in the wrong for deciding to leave all of those things? Should I just let them go and stay with him for the sake of our daughter?

I appreciate any and all words of encouragement, thank you ladies🤞🏻

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