Can you date someone with trust issues?

Question

My boyfriend has trust issues from previous relationships which he has admitted to me. He gets easily jealous and kind of controlling at times, but he says that he’s not. We’ve been together for 6 months now and he still doesn’t trust me. I know that we need to work on our communication, but there is no reason not to trust me. He doesn’t like when I go out with my friends, he checks up on me every time we’re not together, when we’re apart he calls me multiple times a day just to talk, and he’s low-key anxious when I go out without him. He once accused me of cheating because I texted him instead of sending pictures when I was out with my friend. It feels like he always needs to keep an eye on me even if i’m not doing anything. He always wants to know where i’m at and who i’m with and what we’re doing. At times it has been exhausting always having to explain myself and keep him updated because I sometimes feel like I can’t enjoy myself because I know that he will think that something is wrong. I don’t know how to proceed or how to gain his trust. Or if it’s even worth it. I’m not sure if things will change because they haven’t changed this far in our relationship.

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First off him a  that he has jealousy and controls of issues is a red flag. You need to tell him that he needs to get into therapy. He says he doesn't need it then you need to end the relationship and move on. A therapist will help him understand and also help him better himself mentally and physically. Cuz if he doesn't fix that stuff now then it's just going to get a hundred time worse with you and you're going to be miserable hell and a toxic relationship.

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I cannot date someone with trust issues. I prefer to be with a person who is secure enough within themselves to trust me. Trust it is not something that can be proven because the definition is FAITH in someone's abilities. Your partner needs to have faith in you. If you have not done anything for him to question that, then you deserve that faith. What you've described here is more than just trust issues IMO, it's a red flag for abuse. ￼￼￼
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Here's the thing… Regardless of what he's been through in his past, you deserve to be trusted because you're not doing anything wrong. His past should not become your problem. It is his problem to deal with, not yours, and you do not have to cater to it. Be very careful with a person who exerts this type of control over you and says it's because of their past. The past relationship is just an excuse for his bad behavior. It's really because of deep beliefs at his core. Those beliefs may include that women should not be trusted or believed or respected, or treated like human beings because they are property. Just as an example, these types of beliefs are at the core of controlling people and abusers. In order to change his behavior, he will need to change his core beliefs. I would not date this person. He should be on his own working on resolving his trust issues without making it someone else's problem. ￼￼￼

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He needs to work on his issues before getting into a relationship.

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He needs to work on himself. I understand having trust issues from past relationships but he needs to control his check ins, feelings about it, etc.

Can you date someone with trust issues?

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