Does anyone have a husband that half asses everything?

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I do and it annoys the fucking shit out of me. 
Oh you do the dishes for me? I go downstairs, yes he did a majority of the dishes but there are dishes left out in the living room, still dishes in the sink, bottles everywhere for the milk I pumped, dishwasher not started…so I do that
Oh you do the laundry for me? He takes it to the basement, washes and dries it, but leaves it in the dryer and forgets about it. He’s never ever put the laundry away EVER in our relationship. 
Oh you’ll watch the baby for me while I go shower? I come back downstairs after I’m done he’s crying for milk and my husband is too stupid to take the initiative to go into the kitchen to warm up the pumped milk I have in the fridge for him. 
Oh you’ll put the groceries away? I look and everything is fucking shoved into the fridge and pantry, not organized, old ass food still in the fridge. 
Oh you’ll get our daughter ready? Oh no, you’ll just get her clothes on. I have to do her teeth and hair. 
He does make most of the dinners which I am grateful for but that’s it! 
I have to ask for EVERYTHING and I feel (or am) like the fucking nagging wife. But if I don’t ask things won’t get fucking done by the time the day is over. 
Now he gets pissed off at me for nagging and I get pissed off at him for not taking the initiative. I do so much around the house and I feel like I’m the only responsible one around here. Yes he does bring in his paycheck (as do I, we both work full time) but I’m the one who pays all the bills, researches dumbass health bills that were billed incorrectly, does all the grocery shopping, gets the kids ready for school, make sure they have everything they need. He doesn’t do any of that nor does he even fucking care. I am so fucking sick of it and I don’t even know how to bring it up to him without it being a fight. Sorry for the rant I’m just at my wits end.

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My husband is like this also about certain things. I don’t think it’s from being lazy or incompetent- I really just don’t think he’s as detail oriented and he doesn’t see the full picture of the cause and effect not completing a job the way I would complete it has on how the house runs- if that makes sense. Because I run the house majority of the time- it’s a skill to be learned, especially as we add more kids to the family. 
I’ve also just accepted that he is never going to do things exactly how I want them to be done and it’s the effort that counts. Do I ever leave pots to soak in the sink overnight? No, I don’t but I’m not surprised when my husband cleans the kitchen and there’s pots left to “soak”. Do I ever pile the laundry on a kids bed or the coach? No, because then the kids make a mess of it- I leave it in the dryer or a basket until I can get to folding it. Those are just a couple examples and I can choose to be mad about those things or just let them go. 
Sometimes we just have to pick our battles.

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I feel you. I always feel like I nag at my husband. He says that I don’t but sometimes I feel like i do. I don’t want to be like that but damn. If I want something done I usually just do it myself or if I ask him to help I need to tell him specifically what should be done cause then he will only do half of it. For example: he mows the back yard( which I am grateful for) but we also have a dog. The way I see it, if you mow the back yard I would think you would also want to pick up dog 🐕 poop so you’re not stepping in it and bringing it in the house. He forgets all the time to pick up after the dog and wonders why he keeps stepping in shit. I just pick and choose my battles.

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Yes I feel like he’ll do it on purpose so that way I wouldn’t ask. Finally i started doing sht half ass myself after speaking up numerous times, now he does everything completely when he helps which is actually helping now. As to before, I had to go over the tasks he’d do to make sure it’s correct.

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My husband def does some things similarly, esp the dishes and unloading groceries. He says bc I have a specific way I want which i guess is true but I def feel it’s an excuse to just not do it all sometimes! I can totally relate about being in charge of pretty much everything extra tho like bills and researching things for our family and all that. I don’t usually mind bc I do like to be in control but I def get how adding it all together feels like things def aren’t equal which can feel frustrating

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Does anyone have a husband that half asses everything?

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