Is this weaponized incompetence?

Edit to add because I’m sure people will want to take this into consideration, we both work so I feel like it’s only fair that we’re being equal at home when it comes to chores and stuff

Is this considered a form of weaponized incompetence? My bf and I live together and I always am stuck doing all the cleaning, cooking, and everything else. He does help with our kids (we have 2) but I just feel like I shouldn’t be doing everything else and I’m sick of it. I’m pregnant with our 3rd baby and have been really sick the past few weeks so I’ve been asking him for help more often and every time I ask he huffs and puffs or complains about how much he doesn’t want to do it etc so I just say fine forget it. I’ve had him cook dinner a few times in the past couple weeks but stopped asking him to do that because he would just destroy the kitchen in the process and I’d be the one cleaning it up. I always ask if he’ll at least help me pick up the bedrooms during the day etc and he always complains and won’t do it. He says that he “doesn’t like cleaning so therefore he’s not going to do it because why should he have to do something he doesn’t like” I said I don’t like cleaning either but someone has to do it or it won’t get done. Well I got sick of him always getting out of everything so tonight I told him I’m going to cook dinner and he’s gonna help me clean the house after we eat before bedtime. The living room and kitchen was the only 2 rooms I was worried about cleaning because I had already cleaned the bedrooms and bathrooms earlier. There was clearly things in plain sight that needed done and he just stands there saying “what do you want me to do?” I said just look around and do whatever you see that needs done what do you mean? He told me that he will clean if I make him a check list because he has to be told what to do to in order to do it. I said ummmm do you have to make me a check list for me to clean the house every day ? No so I’m not going to make you one I only make chore lists for kids and he’s a grown man. I told him he sees me clean every single day so he should know what I clean and how I do it by now but he still just stood there and had me tell him every single thing I wanted him to do. He’d finish something then just stand there again asking me what I want him to do. 🫠 I had him sweep the living room and pick up all the pillows and throw blankets from the floor and put them back on the couch that was it. Then I asked for one more thing if he could wipe the kitchen counters down because I was doing the dishes and he again huffs and puffs then comes in there and asks “what do I wipe it with” I said dude a paper towel the same thing you always see me use. They were RIGHT in front of his face. He grabs one and just starts wiping the dry counter smearing all the crumbs around and said “like this?” I said NO you have to use a spray cleaner and he asks “where is that” like all the cleaning supplies aren’t in the same cabinet they’ve always been in. I just said forget it and snatched the paper towel out of his hand and wiped everything down and told him to go do whatever it is that is so much more important than helping me. Like it’s literally MORE of a hassle to have his help than to not have it. This is one of the biggest issues I have with him and it’s just getting annoying. He’s a GREAT dad but I feel like he’s just not very helpful when it comes to household stuff.