Husband may like men?

Question

I'm 20 and my husband is 22. We got married when I was 18 and he was 19 almost 20. We had an arranged marriage and I was really excited to be a wife and I want more than anything to be a mom. But he barely has sex with me. It's almost like he's repulsed by me. My MIL has also joked about how when he was 10 and was told he was arranged to be married he got upset and cried and she loves to bring that up.
Why I think my husband likes men besides just not liking sex is because he's extremely close with his childh best friend. Close to the point that I feel in my gut he has feelings. I can tell when my husband is blushing and he constantly blushes around his best friend and when his best friend was over I caught them outside lying under the tree together. Just extremely close.  They were just talking but I just feel in my gut there's some feelings. His best friend has also made jokes about them hooking up and my husband just blushes and doesn't correct him. I don't think he's cheating but I do think he isn't in love with me or into women at all. He doesn't seem to like sex with me or any intimacy and idk what to do😞

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I would be upset too if I found out I didn’t get to choose who I wanted to marry. It’s unfortunate that it’s even still a thing. I don’t think it matters if he’s gay or not, but having a close friend as a guy does not mean hes gay. Lying under a tree together is not gay. Can you get a divorce? you both deserve to be with someone you want to be with and who wants to be with you too

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I'm truthfully not sure how you'd go about ending things brought on by an arranged marriage, but then ending result should end in divorce. If he were bi sexual there could be hope, but he sounds gay, and in love with someone else. If someone is gay, they're gay, and there isn't much you or the next person can do about it. If you stay, you both will be unhappy. He will get to experience moments of happiness when his best friend is around. Meanwhile, you'll grow miserable while possibly creating low self esteem thinking something is wrong with you, when it isn't. Voicing to his family that he is gay may cause him problems, so if possible, if you choose to divorce him, you could privately, intimately, and respectfully let him know that you know he's gay and have for some time. After that discussion I think it would be wise for you both to separate and use irreconcilable differences as the reason on move on with your lives. You will be an amazing wife and mom, just not to your current husband. I hope that this was helpful and that you find a way forward. Keep your head up, beautiful.

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Gay or not.. ur marriage isn't going to last.. because it takes two to make it work.. he doesn't like itimacy with u.. that should of got better.. u should be closer as time goes on.. getting to know each other and being comfortable but he isn't.. and also his friend joked about them being together.. why would he do that ? And ur husband say nothing but act like a blushing bf.

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We werent married but I had a similar experience with an ex and his best guy friend and he turned out to be gay. I also kept telling myself I was reading too much into it but besides them being close there were subtle cues/vibes I picked up on. I think you need to talk to him. Dont be accusatory, be supportive. Acknowledge what his mom has said and that this may not be what he really wanted, but better to be honest.

Husband may like men?

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