Is sex supposed to hurt this much?

Question

So I was hooking up with a guy and he asked if I wanted to have sex, to which I said no because he didn’t have any protection. Next time we are hooking up he just put it in and I wasn’t prepared for that especially since he still didn’t have protection, but it hurt a lot. I’ve heard it hurts a little at first but a few minutes in the pain never eased so I asked him to stop, which he did. I was bleeding after and it felt like a paper cut on my vagina, it even hurt to wipe after going to the bathroom. Is that normal?

Answer

What you are describing is rape. If it were consensual, your body would produce lubrication to ease the friction.

Answer

To answer your question, no sex should not hurt. That is a myth. When you are turned on, your vagina relaxes and penetration is not painful. This does not happen to everyone, but that means they need to go to the gyno. 
For your situation, of course it hurt. You were raped. You never consented. You did not have sex, you were raped. Please never see this person again and consider pressing charges

Answer

Was this your first time? Did you consent at any point before he “just put it in”? Did he immediately stop when you told him to? I may be seriously overreacting or just completely reading this wrong, but this sounds like you were raped.

Answer

Your first time ever if going to be uncomfortable for sure. You may or may not bleed. If you aren’t wet and he goes in dry it can cause tiny cuts in the skin. Think of it like a tight fist. Clitoral stimulation is how most women climax not from penetration alone. You can say no. And not go there at all not fair for him to pressure you or do anything you aren’t ready for. Especially not putting it in without your consent. You said he didn’t have protection and you told him no yet he still did it. Rape or sexual assault, he never should have done that without your consent. It may hurt the first few time a you have sexual. Nothing has been in there. It’s like trying to shove a finger into a tight fist. You gotta relax. Well lubricated. Stimulated. Then try when you have protection. Otherwise it’s not gonna go well.

Answer

If you weren’t lubricated enough this could happen . However it sounds like he didn’t get your consent to have sex . He knew you said no before because of no protection, so this time he just didn’t ask.. and still didn’t have protection . This also sounds like sexual assault / rape . It doesn’t matter what you we’re doing before he still didn’t ask to have sex before he did that.

Answer

It's not rape. When she said no, he stopped.

Is sex supposed to hurt this much?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey