Am I a piece of sh*t??

Question

Hi. So, I was told I would most likely never have children of my own. We didn’t want to adopt and could afford IVF. I got pregnant with my miracle baby and am now 7 month along (I was also on birth control to help with my PCOS and bad periods). I am having the hardest time. I’m physically sore all the time and physically and mentally drained. Because I couldn’t have kids I got into fostering cats. Long story short, I ended up keeping 8 cats. I love them so so so so much! But I’m struggling with everything at the moment, financially, emotionally, physically, mentally, all of it. They have destroyed my downstairs as well. The rescue I got them from won’t take them back. But when I adopted them I signed a contract saying I can’t rehome them or give them to another rescue or anything. So I’m literally stuck with them. My plan is to get a giant dog run, with dog houses that I can insulate for winter time and I’ll put fans in the run for summer, they will have litter boxes in there that I will clean, and they will be fed and watered twice a day. I just need my downstairs back because they’ve torn it to shreds, covered it in shit even though I clean their litter boxes and the litter boxes are covered. Am I a piece of shit for putting the cats out in the dog run like that?

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The rescue cannot refuse to take them back while also preventing you from rehoming them. That’s not how a contract works. 
Tell the rescue in writing that if they refuse to honor the contract and take back the cats, then you’ll be rehoming them privately or taking them to a shelter. Give them a hard deadline. 
8 cats is WAY too many for the average person, and the rescue was insane to allow that.

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If they’re refusing to take the cats back, they breached the contract and you’re welcome to rehome them. 
You need to be logical here. You’re unable to care for them now and do not have the time or energy to build anything of the sort to house them. The cats are destroying your home and that means they’re not getting enough of what they need. They don’t need to be built anything, they need to be given to people who have the time and energy to rehabilitate them, love and care for them.

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You can get rid of the cats. 8 is too many. They should let have allowed you to adopt that many. No one is going to come after you, if you break your contact. Having pets destroy your house where a child lives is not ok.

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I agree with the other comments. If the shelter won’t take them back then I would give them to another shelter. It is unfair what the previous shelter did and doing to you. If you choose to give the cats to another shelter more likely than not they will not know that you have done so.

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If the cats are feral or at least behaving as such, it is not a proper environment for a baby. 
The rescue CANNOT make you keep them. If that is actually written in a contract it can be invalidated by a judge if need be.

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8 cats is way too many. Thats not even safe or sanitary

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get rid of the cats girl.

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In Fort Wayne Indiana you can only have 5 cats by law, check your state to see anyways so you also don’t get in trouble for that. If you need to rehome all 8 cats ABSOLUTELY do it! You’re not wrong and need to call the place and tell them they need to take them back or you will be rehoming them as they broke the contract to begin with. I had to rehome our cat to the humane society so he could get adopted “and did right away” because he started to destroy our home and destroyed $10,000 in two couches. You have to do what is best. Don’t feel guilty or bad but I’d most definitely try and send them to another home

Am I a piece of sh*t??

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