Time to let him go ?🚩

Senior year of HS 2014/15 I moved to Michigan.I met this guy . We never dated but he was my fl. He was Mr popular all the girls wanted him . I didn't see the hype . Then we officially met over something so random . I lost my virginity to him. Which I later found out was a bet and that he had a gf.🚩

After graduation I moved back to Texas he stayed in Michigan . Over the next couple years id see him when I was in town bout twice a year . He never considered dating me I was just entertainment when he was between GFS. (Sex, texting, talking otp, hanging out) He knew how I felt about him . I still wanted to be with him. 🚩

When he got with his child's mother had his first daughter I got blocked.

April 2021 he had an accident that caused 1/4 of his brain to be removed. Because of his new looks, speech, and partial paralyzation he lost all his "ho*s" and the mother of his 2 daughters. (She left for other reasons) . When I heard he was in the hospital 2 weeks after the accident.I reached out he replied almost 3 weeks after.

2 days of talking we finally video chat he was self conscious about his looks but I didn't care I still had love for him . We talked literally everyday may-sept. During this time he finally entertained us being together. We were planning all kinds of stuff, sending each other money , I was buying him gifts and his kids stuff. Literally the high school mes dream. I flew up and visited him for my bday August. We had sex (sorta) once. Spent 3 days with him. He showed me his phone how it was just me in it minus family and how he'd take random pics of me on facetime. Due to the accident he had become really open and honest . Then September hit he started acting different. Everyday phone calls turned into every couple days- once a week. Around November he told me he missed his BM and kids and it was going to be his first holidays without them that he dodnt mean to hurt me he didnt know how much he missed them till old pics popped up on his phone . No real explanation on why the calls became less but I told him thanks for letting me know and for the fun. His BM curved him and let him know she was dating a guy . I told him that was it for us and hat he can't just come back to me . I lived out my dream I was good . We'd text but that's all it was. February I flew up 2 days for his bday cuz I promised before I would if he still didn't have friends. We barely spoke after that Last I heard was he was finally getting one day out the week with his kids, he was fully walking without his cane then I blocked him cuz I Met a guy and had a kid of my own. I didn't talk to him for a year untill his mom contacted me and said he had two seizures summer 2023 and he suffered from memory loss but he was asking for me. Yes I still cared about him but health wise and my bf knew everything . I called his mom's phone and spoke with him for 3 hours . He had forgotten most of our memories but he remembered we met in highschool and we planned to have a son & the name I picked . After our talk I reminded him the reality that me and him no longer speak I was in a relationship, i had a baby all that . His mom text me the next day saying how he didn't remember speaking on the phone with me . Honestly I cried . I let her know she can keep me updated but I can't talk to him anymore i didn't want to face the day he forgot me . New years 2024 me and my guy broke up. He cheated then gave me a black eye when I found out. The apartment called the cops cuz he locked me out but the cops took him for a warrant he had. After his sentencing I didn't look back. Found out I was pregnant again and didn't tell my ex...I logged on Facebook end ofmarch the guys mom had been uodating me . He dated a girl for a couple months that collected his disability checks and lied to him because he didn't remember. She wouldn't visit him but told him she visited. She found him on the bathroom floor unresponsive in January. Sent me pics of his bday celebration. Told me his kids , a few old friends came to visit and his brother took him to the club for the first time since the accident. His memory had gotten worse and asked me to check on him soon . Hen she had asked me me fly up and watch him a week cuz she needed a break and she trust me ...all the messages I missedI unblocked him and texted him at first he could only send voice audio replies. Weve been talking regularly the past 3 months . Things aren't the same, I have to repeat myself , and he forgit how we me and our unborn sons name. He just knows he knows me but yesterday he asked me to be his gf . His mom was all in the back saying you know you love my son, and I could move in her house . Telling him he was wrong for how he treated me when nobody else was there. Reminding him how after the accident I was talking to doctors, scheduling his therapy appointments, sending his mom money , sent his BM money , buying him his kids things , making sure he take his meds, calling severaltimes a day. He didn't remember...

Not to be mean but idk if I want to be taking care of him the rest of our lives ,hes mostly independent but he cant work and id literally have to drive everywhere nomore passenger princess. I couldn't get him at his best why should I settle for his worst he doesn't deserve me after 10 years of not wanting me . Plus My life is in Texas . Like I care bout him but I don't see myself being with him. Idk why we are drawn to each other . Idk if I was only put in his life cuz God knew he would need someone after the accident or to love him unconditionally like idk . I told them I'll think about it.

What should I do ?

It's either

A- give the relationship a chance

B- just be friends

C- be done with him all together

@dp- yes I know that's why the red flags are there . It was a lot more reasons I should've been done then as well.

@tommi- I'm learning the self respect part. I knew after the accident me being there and him still choosing his BM I didn't see myself dating him and now I cant cuz if eel I deserve better.

@alexis- other way around . I can handle being friends. I can't handle cutting him and his mom off completely and NOT knowing how he turns out.

@mommaof4- so you didn't make mistakes at 17? Ok.