My friend and her daughter

I admit, sometimes I intervene with the parenting, when I think my friend is damaging her daughter's self esteem.

Now my friend is a woman in our friend group. I am autistic and I don't connect well with people and I often don't know how close we are. To me she feels a bit like an outsider, but how she confides in me and other signals show that for her I'm het friend. I'm interested in being her friend I'm just really not great at it.

I'm under 30, my friend is in her late forties.

She has a 15yo daughter, who looks perfect, except she's got a scar in her face, which is a medical error from during childbirth.

So the 15yo has a crush on a boy that is aparantly really kind and open and good looking.

(I saw a picture and I didn't think he was extremely impressive but my judgment was never asked)

She is doubting to pursue because she thinks she's not good enough for him (He's too good to be true for her, were the exact words) and the 15yo said this because her mom told her that, when she told me, her mom full heartedly and overbearingly repeated that them dating would be "too good to be true"

Here's where I feel I interfered.

I told the 15yo girl that she's perfect the way she is, and that "too good" or "not good enough" has no value, what you think he wants, has no value, the only thing that has value is what he actually wants. It doesn't matter if you or anyone else thinks you're not good enough for him, the only person who can decide if you are a good match for him (I don't deal with good enough or not good enough) is him.

The 15yo heard and seemed to understand. The mom, I'm not too sure. She dropped the matter and we were watching a show anyways and she got distracted, I don't think she was still listening.

ETA:

This isn't the first time I heard mom devaluing her daughter, because of some birth defects she has. Apart from the scar they are invisible and don't bother the girl yet.

@Molly,

It was specifically said, but also we' re not English speaking so I translated. The tone was definitely more along the lines of "the dream of becoming a couple" would be too good to be true because he was too good for her, that was absolutely undeniable.