Am I tripping?

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Husband doesn’t have 9-5 
Doesn’t contribute to rent and bills enough 
Has an inherited house and he uses it for a music studio / place for his friends to come and go whenever they please
He doesn’t pay any bills at that house his father does
I feel like he doesn’t try harder to provide for me and our 3 children 
This morning I snapped I did and I feel bad. I got upset because he was getting irritated over me “complaining “ to him that I am tired of paying everything alone and if I’m short I can’t depend on him
He smokes weed makes music all day on his phone but not stressing or coming up with a solution to help with these bills because now they are “my bills” and he wants me to use the last of my gas to take him door dashing to get a few dollars just to put it back in my tank. 
I work full time plus provide for EVERYTHING 
Kids need clothes shoes etc and since most my money goes to bills I have nothing left to really save . If I had a partner who met me halfway instead of making excuses things would be a little better 
He told me to shut the fuck up because I guess I was getting too loud speaking to him. He was so nonchalant about me damn near in tears over bills debt etc and just tired of “asking” him if he could help out with this and that instead of him just taking care of business 
I’m so overwhelmed

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Your husband is a LOSER. He contributes nothing to you and your family. I have no idea why you would marry someone like that, let alone have 3 children by that man.

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Where do you ladies find these losers and then think it’s a good idea to have a bunch of kids with them? Just leave already, you don’t need a thread of people telling you he is oxygen thief, it’s pretty obvious

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he sounds like a child. you deserve better and deserve someone who treats you right. sounds like he’s using you

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Girl it’s time to divorce.  You’ve been posting about these issues and that he disappears for days at a time doing who knows what with whoever at this other house that you’re not allowed to go to for so long now.  He’s not going to change.

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If he can’t contribute I would have him move out of your house and into his own. If he wants the kids 50/50, then great you have time to relax when the kids are with him and he’ll need to provide his own stuff for said kids when they are with him. 
If he doesn’t want 50/50, you get full custody and he will need to provide child support to help financially. 
There’s no reason for you to have 4 kids to take care of when you only birthed 3. 
My only other suggestion is to talk to him parents and ask why they aren’t helping their grandkids and enable his crappy life style when he has kids to take care of and isn’t!

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Sounds like you don't need him.

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He gets his dad to pay for somewhere for him to dose around.. he has a back up so he couldn't careless if u kick him out or not.. u should never of had one kid with him.. let alone 3.. ur on ur own.

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He sounds like a deadbeat.

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Sounds like you're a single lady with a married title. You.do.not.deserve.this. You are already doing it alone so you don't need a loser like him. He should be providing for his family instead his priorities are not aligned with family goals.

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