Im a single mom and have a three-year-old daughter who is wonderful! But sometimes she acts out of line or does things that I don’t find acceptable. Or she does things that I don’t want her doing because it’s not right to do.. like I wouldn’t want her acting that way with other people. She’s a typical toddler. But tonight For example she spit in my eye while acting like she was going to kiss me. I got very upset. This was at bedtime. Instead of yelling or getting physical I simply explained that I didn’t like and told her it made me upset and left the room. She screamed and cried. This was probably for 2 minutes. I re entered the room and she apologized and I we hugged and I explained why I got upset again. (We have full conversations so I know she understands me). She then fell asleep. After cuddles.

I was explaining this situation to my mom because I was venting and she called me abusive. My mom has a pattern of calling me abusive. It takes me a lot to lose my shit with my toddler. I’m a very patient person. I only yell if I get to my tippy top end of the line boiling point which is happening more lately because she’s really testing me. I try to have the ultimate self control when it comes to her because she is only 3! My mom heard me yell the other day while she was over and yet again called me abusive. Just from yelling she was telling me I’m going to beat my child and hurt her.. my mom comes from a REALLY abusive household. I don’t know why she’s pinning the abuse word on me? We don’t have the best relationship and she is loco hot cocoa sometimes but it’s bothering me and making me second guess myself. Advice on toddler discipline? My daughter doesn’t hit or throw things! She just does some funky stuff out the random. Like the spitting tonight was so random. Thank you! Please don’t judge me or my little one. We’re both learning.